Pastoral Care

The Deputy Head (Pastoral) oversees the support of our children’s wellbeing and all staff play a key role in keeping the children as safe and mentally healthy as possible.

Form Tutors, who are the main point of contact for both parents and children, have a pivotal role in supporting the children at School. As they move through the School more time is spent with specialist teachers, however the role of the form tutor is the most important. In addition to the form tutor, each child has a ‘Go To’ person: someone they can talk to about any concerns.

Over and above the form tutor, a vast support network of staff is accessible to the children. This includes the School nurses, counsellors, chaplain and indeed any adult the children are comfortable talking with. Children have the IWMTK (I Wish My Teacher Knew) box in each classroom and app to register anything, whether positive or negative, they wish to share with their teacher. The ePraise bully button can also be accessed by the children from their iPad and this reports any concerns to the Deputy Head Pastoral.

Reverend Bellamy, the school chaplain, is available to children, staff and parents for non-judgemental and specialised support to all, whether they practise a faith or not. He can be contacted at

The Ashford Behaviour Code (ABC)

The Ashford Behaviour Code (ABC) underpins everything we do at the Prep School. All children have access to the ePraise behaviour app on their iPads, and they can be awarded points for each strand of the behaviour code as follows:

  • Look after others and look after myself
  • Be polite and respectful to everyone
  • Be kind in what I say and do
  • Look after the School environment and avoid waste
  • Remember to walk and not run inside
  • Take care of other people’s belongings and my own
  • Be honest and seek to forgive
  • Remember how lucky I am and that giving and sharing are the best feelings in the world

When a child has reached the required number of points in one area, they are awarded a small token to show their achievement. Upon earning all 8 badges, the ULTIMATE badge will be awarded.


Running in tandem with the Behaviour Code, we award house points as a day-to-day reward; for example, in recognition of a good piece of learning. For outstanding learning, children are invited to visit the Head Teacher to receive a gold star, which is worth 10 house points! The four houses are Chaucer, Trivet, Navarre and Becket and each have their own designated member of staff. Children have regular house meetings and each house runs events over the course of the year. The Head of Houses oversees all houses.

Welcome to our new Wellbeing Team

We encourage and welcome you to make contact with our Wellbeing Team should you wish to discuss anything. At the Prep School, there will be a central post box which children can write their name and class on a slip and I will allocate them a time slot.

Mr Chris Neesham,
Deputy Head – Pastoral